Can’t Believe She’s Fifty!

by Steve Ray on June 11, 2007

Janet Lee Sklenar moved to Michigan with her family in 1972 when she was a pretty fifteen year old. I met her on the first day of school that year. Thirty one years ago I married that beautiful blond who was then nineteen years old. When she said "I do" I cried all the way back down the isle. I was a lucky man. But today that girl just turned fifty years old.

I was not just a lucky man back in 1976; I am even luckier (or should I say, "more blessed") today. She is more than I could have dreamed of and as far as I am concerned, she is more beautiful now than she was thirty-one years ago when I married her. I post this picture of her on the Sea of Galilee on my blog, but there' lots more in our Ray Family Photo Album and all the other photo albums too.

JanetGalileeSm.jpgI turned 52 last year. I still think of myself as twenty-something. We will celebrate our 31st Wedding Anniversary in December but we still feel like newly weds — with the advantage of much more wisdom, experience and depth. We spend every day together.

The old saying is that married men have better sex. I feel sorry for all those guys running around in midlife crises looking for love in all the wrong places. Staying faithful to one woman and treating her like a queen is the only way to go. God is pretty smart; he knew what he was doing when he designed marriage as a covenant between a man and a woman for a lifetime.

My parents are 88 and 85 years old. They just celebrated their 65th Wedding Anniversary. They are like to love bugs in a rug (as the old saying goes). They were here on Sunday and were still like two kids in love with each other. Janet's parents have also been married for over 50 years. Maybe their examples helped us make it through the early years into the bliss we now know. Many thanks for our parents!

Now my kids are growing up and making their own lives. Our oldest daughter Cindy, whom I still remember running around with bouncy blond hair, and my boy Jesse who followed me everywhere, are now married with kids of their own. (Charlotte 20, and Emily 15 are young and available if there's any worthy young men out there.) All predictions are that their marriages which are rich and deep, centered around Our Lord in his Church will continue to blossom even more through the years. Some day they will write a blog like this in praise of their spouses and to express hopes for their own kids.

So today I bask in God's blessing and my wife's love and I look forward to being a team with her for many years to come — there is a lot to do for the Kingdom and somebody's got to do it.

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Janet's mom June 11, 2007 at 2:49 PM

A lovely tribute to Janet. In our church bulletin is this quote from the late Rich. C. Halvorsen: “You go nowhere by accident. Wherever you go, God is sending you. Wherever you are God has put you there and has a purpose in your being there. Christ who indwells you has something he wants to do through you where you are. Believe this and go in His grace and love and power.”
We have seen the Lord at work in our lives so many times through the years, and we hope that the next 50 years for you & Janet will be better yet. We love you both. Mary (Janet’s mom)

Tom Nourse June 13, 2007 at 1:13 PM

Steve and Janet,
It is very evident that God has blessed you through eachother to the benefit of all those who know you and see His grace working in you. Your conversion story was the spark to bring me home, your witness will keep me home, praise be to God!
God bless,
Your brother in Christ,

Daniel June 13, 2007 at 10:56 PM

Thank you for the wonderful example you set to young men on how to be a good and loving husband. Reading what you wrote about Janet brought tears to my eyes. God bless you both, and may you have another 30( ) happy years together!

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